No, Masculinity Isn’t To Blame For Manchester

The other night, we learned of a deadly attack in Manchester, England at an Ariana Grande concert. As more information became available, we learned that the attacker was a suicide bomber and he was apparently a Muslim.

More information came in and we learned he’d recently traveled to Libya, ostensibly to learn how to construct a bomb.

Sounds pretty clear, right?

Well, not for everyone.  This photograph is just one of these same arguments I’ve seen on Twitter over and over again.

Ho. Lee. Crap. Continue reading “No, Masculinity Isn’t To Blame For Manchester”

For Those Searching For Stupid

First, let me start out by apologizing for not having this up by Monday as I’d promised.  Sunday night, all cable went out at my house, and they couldn’t get here to fix it until late yesterday afternoon.  However, since they were supposed to call us if something opened up sooner, I stuck around the house, hoping and praying.  Unfortunately, nada.

Photo by Jaroslaw Popczyk

However, it’s also given me time to think about this comment I got a short time ago.  It wasn’t published as a comment, and I’ll explain why in a moment.  The important thing here is to remember that some people are so bothered by the idea of men acting like men, they’ll lash out at anyone who won’t toe the line like a good little FIM.

This comment was made on my post, Provider, Protector, and Professor. The Role of Men Part 1: The Protector, which is important as you’ll see in a moment. Continue reading “For Those Searching For Stupid”

Failure and Disappointment

No matter how awesome you are, at some point, things aren’t going to work out right.  It’s a simple fact of life.  Your girlfriend breaks up with you, you get shot down by the girl of your dreams, you get laid off from work, or any of a number of possibilities.  All of these things happen to each and every one of us.

Photo by H. Michael Karshis
Photo by H. Michael Karshis

What defines a man in this regard is how he deals with it.

Everyone encounters it at some point, but the issue is that many can’t accept that it happens nor use it in a positive manner.

Several years ago, I bought a newspaper. This is long before Portlandia had someone do the same thing for laughs.  I really did it.

Unfortunately, it didn’t work out.  The reasons are irrelevant, but it didn’t.

It would have been easy to roll over and die.  Failure hurts, and because the success was pretty public, so was the failure.  That made it worse for me.

However, I thought about other fails throughout history.  In particular, Steve Jobs.  I read his biography a short time after he died, and I was struck with one very important thing.  Jobs failed. Continue reading “Failure and Disappointment”

The Roots of Gender Roles

In this day and age, there is a lot of talk about gender roles.  In the realm of politics, traditional gender roles are treated like the products of a thankfully bygone era that couldn’t have died too soon.  It’s like people believe that those roles existed solely so men could oppress women or something.

Photo from Flickr, by Quinn Dombrowski
Photo from Flickr, by Quinn Dombrowski

Author Sarah Hoyt, best known for her fiction writing but also a notable political and cultural writer, took aim at the topic a couple of days ago.  Some of you may be groaning, thinking, “Oh great.  Another woman to tell us just how much we suck.”

If you’re thinking that, then you don’t know Sarah.

Sarah isn’t just an author and commentator.  She’s also a dear friend, an ally of this site, and something of a mentor to me with my fiction writing.  In other words, she’s not the kind of woman we need to worry about.

Here’s what Sarah had to say: Continue reading “The Roots of Gender Roles”

Political Violence And The Modern Man

For most of my life, political violence just didn’t really happen here in the U.S.  That was something that happened over “there.”  Wherever “there” happened to be.  That’s not the case anymore.  For months now, the United States has been rocked by riots because some spoiled children didn’t like the outcome of the election.

Photo by Daniel Lobo, from Flickr
Photo by Daniel Lobo, from Flickr

So-called “antifascists” have decided that opposition to immigration–even opposition to illegal immigration, apparently–is akin to fascism.  In and of itself, that’s not a big deal.  After all, both sides like to throw around the “fascist” label a fair bit.

Unfortunately, these antifascists aren’t interested in debate.  They don’t want to try to beat their opponents with facts or better ideas.  No, they want to beat their opponents.  Literally.

Now, I’ll be honest.  I have absolutely no sympathy for racism or racists, so I really don’t care if they’re getting their ass beaten in and of itself.

The problem, however, is that labels are damn easy to sling around and now we’re dealing with people advocating violence against anyone with a certain label. Continue reading “Political Violence And The Modern Man”

World Gone Mad

I’ve been trying to figure out what I should be writing today, and my mind keeps going to events in Berkeley, CA on Wednesday night.  In case you missed it, protesters rioted over controversial speaker Milo Yiannapolous.

Let me start by saying I’m not really a Milo fan.  He pisses off all the right people, but he does it in some ways that I don’t really approve of.  He’s a provacateur, and I’m not sure that’s the way to really win the hearts and minds of those willing to be swayed.

However, the rioters are complete and total idiots.

Milo craves conflict.  While he may not actually want riots, he does want protests and screaming.  He wants to create a scene that he and his fanboys can point at and laugh.

This is one I’ve gotten more than a few laughs over, because I was familiar with this…individual long before she became famous as “Trigglypuff”.  In addition to a SJW, she’s a fat acceptance activist, which is freaking hysterical as it is.

With someone like Milo and his fans, this is ambrosia.  This is what they live for, and they love it completely.  When a social justice warrior melts down like this, they get a good laugh out of it.

Now, I won’t blame them, because I do too.

The difference is Milo goes out to instigated, trying to get these reactions.  Milo is a troll, for want of a better term.  He says and does things to get a reaction. Continue reading “World Gone Mad”