The other night, we learned of a deadly attack in Manchester, England at an Ariana Grande concert. As more information became available, we learned that the attacker was a suicide bomber and he was apparently a Muslim.
More information came in and we learned he’d recently traveled to Libya, ostensibly to learn how to construct a bomb.
Sounds pretty clear, right?
Well, not for everyone. This photograph is just one of these same arguments I’ve seen on Twitter over and over again.
Yesterday, after writing a pretty long fisk of the Huffington Post story, something about it stuck in my craw. Something that the subject of the piece, Mike Reynolds, said that really bugged me. Well, bugged me more than the bulk of what he said, at least.
“We do science projects together, we make up bedtime stories about giants who play hopscotch, and we talk our bodies, how they are changing, and about anything they’d like to ask me,” he said, adding, “I think this is a relationship a lot of dads have with their daughters but they’re told they should be protecting their daughters with their physical strength instead of building trusting relationships with them.”
As I pointed out yesterday, the two aren’t mutually exclusive. I tell my daughter bedtime stories and do homework together, but I also believe in protecting her as well.
Reynolds also has a t-shirt design that says “Strength has no gender.”
While doing research for both this site and another project I have in the works, I’ve noticed something, and I’m not sure just how I feel about it. That is how so many sites ostensibly about masculinity and men’s issues spend an inordinate amount of time kvetching about feminists.
Make no mistake, I’m no fan of modern, third-wave feminism. Yes, women should be treated equally, but that’s not what this version of feminism is really about based on my readings.
However, many guys spend so much time complaining about feminism that they forget they’re supposed to be talking about men.
Frankly, I don’t really care. When feminists attack masculinity, men in general, or something important to us, I’ll respond. Other than that, maybe a passing mention because I despise their ideas of masculinity. I’m just not that interested in their opinions. Continue reading “Let’s Just Be Men”